So my dad was sitting in the kitchen when he noticed my container of dehydrated date nuts. (A quick FYI – I have an obsession with dehydrated fruit and keep a variety in my house at all times! This week I bought dates! ^.^)
Seeing the new container of dates, my dad casually asked, “So what exactly is a date?”
My mom was quick to respond, “It’s when a boy and girl like each other very much and go somewhere special.”
I looked down. Aah, another one of those comments…
Heteronormativity is so engrained in their minds it’s like they are trying to forget I ever bothered coming out to them. I know I may be overanalyzing what may have been meant as nothing more than an innocent joke but this still shows a set pattern of thinking. Maybe she honestly slipped up and forgot that saying a comment like that with heteronormative assumptions to her gay son might be a bad idea… :/
Or was this another sly remark in hopes of brainwashing me to be straight? If it was, I should have addressed it. Usually, I look past this type of stuff but it almost seems inconsiderate that my parents aren’t being more sensitive right now. It’s still a raw subject in our household and I think they should be more careful about what they say since I didn’t come out to them all that long ago.
If it happens a third time, I am going to speak up.