About Me

Hello! My name is Rocky Trifari. You can also call me by my Chinese name: 泰山.

I am a graduate of Rutgers University where I majored in psychology and entrepreneurship. I am a huge proponent of personal development and I believe our mindset plays the most influential role in guiding our journey through life. In Swahili, “safari” means “journey.”

I love to test my own limits and I’ve come to realize I am the happiest while I’m trekking far beyond the border of my comfort zone.

People are sometimes surprised to learn that I identify as an introvert because I also happen to be very outgoing. (A distinction I discuss a lot about on my blog.) As a matter of fact, I love meeting new people and discovering new things. I’m definitely not shy. I frequently speak to large audiences for work and I readily introduce myself to strangers. I guess it’s because I love to learn and I’m curious about seemingly everything.

In 2013, I graduated from a vocational high school where I studied graphic design and spent my senior year taking all of my classes at a local college. While I decided not to pursue digital design in college, I continue to treat photography and web design as two hobbies I deeply care about. That’s why I have continued to publish on here since 2013. I love to travel and blog whenever I have any free time.

Aside from that, I am also a huge fan of foreign languages (as you may have guessed from the intro, namely Chinese!) Then in 2019, I moved to Spain where I studied Spanish. You could say I’m somewhat of a “polyglot-in-training.”

I walked the Great Wall of China!!!

A few things that are interesting about me: I’ve volunteered as a tour guide at a Chinese Summer Camp for two years and led approximately two hundred Chinese students to famous landmarks all along the US East Coast. We ate at 14 Chinese Buffets in a row during our travels. (But they never warned me about that small detail when I was signing up!) Each day as our tour bus would pull up to the next Chinese buffet, I would turn my head to the window and shed a tear. This opportunity allowed me to gain both a large amount of experience and weight. πŸ˜‰

Some of my other interests include birdwatching, drinking different types of tea, and of course, traveling! So you’ll probably read a bit about all of those things on my blog.

Between all of the flying, to pass the time, I also enjoy doing Sudoku and reading on my Nook. I’ve visited more than fifteen different countries around the world (at the time of writing) and I have no intention of stopping there! My goal is to eventually visit every (safe) country on Earth! This blog chronicles that journey.

New Years Eve in Spain

You should also know that I adore birds! I’m somewhat obsessed with them. Yeah, definitely obsessed. I even hung a bird feeder outside of my dorm room window while I was in college. I quickly became known as “the Resident Assistant with the birdfeeder” at Rutgers. I’d like to think it was somewhat of a landmark on campus during my time there. Maybe? Maybe not. Anyway, I am definitely getting a pet bird in the future! (Still in the process of deciding which kind. Thinking maybe a Cape Parrot!)

In 2018, I set off on a trip to travel the world with nothing but my backpack and a one-way ticket to Athens, Greece. Using money earned from this blog and my digital nomad gig, I was able to pay for my entire trip in cash without creating a cent of debt afterward. On my blog, I teach others how to make it possible.

Make sure you remember to follow my blog and connect with me on social media so we can stay in touch. Especially if you would like to know how this all unfolds! I think it is going to be the craziest adventure imaginable. You can read about my plans for the future here.

For those of you who know your MBTI personality type, I am an INFJ which is the least common of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types, especially in men. I was surprised to learn that male INFJs make up less than 1% of the global population! It is estimated that gay male INFJs make up less than 0.25% of the global population. INFJs are the old-souls, the listeners, the care-takers, and the advocates who seek to create a better world.

With stats like those, you can imagine why I might feel like a bit of a square peg in a round hole trying to fit into society. But what makes us unique can also be our greatest strengths. So much like a bird, I’m going to do what comes naturally to me, spread my wings, and fly.

Ironically, the MBTI personality type “most suited to travel the world” is the ESTP (the complete opposite of what I am…) So once again, I guess the stats are stacked against me in that regard. We’ll see how it goes!

But that’s why I love it.


Rocky in 2013

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    1. Hi Rocky,

      Since your Chinese name is ζ³°ε±±, it would have been more appropriate or accurate to call yourself Tarzan. πŸ™‚

      Happy April to you and cheers!

      Looking forward to your being “a world-famous polyglot!”

      1. Hey SoundEagle! I am so sorry for taking so long to respond to your comment! I try to write back to everyone who takes the time to reach out to me but the notification for your comment must have somehow slipped past me. That or my reply had an error and never posted. Anyway, you’re so right! My Chinese friends laugh at my name because of the literal translation but I like my Chinese name! It has grown on me because my Chinese teacher was so excited when she gave it to me. Anyway, thanks for stopping in and happy January! Haha πŸ™‚

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    1. Hey Kelly! No problem, I really like your blog! πŸ™‚ ζˆ‘δΌšθ―΄ζ±‰θ―­οΌ(Well, sort of haha, I take Chinese in school so I know a little bit. I love the language and the culture so much though, so hopefully one day I’ll be fluent!)

    1. Thanks, Susanne! The nomination is greatly appreciated! I’m sorry but I must ask: do you actually read my blog or did you select fifteen blogs at random? Only because I saw that you aren’t a follower of my blog so I’m just interested in knowing how/why you selected the 15 blogs that you picked.

    1. Hey Thomas! Thanks for stopping by! (Sorry, I know this is really late- I’m not sure if I ever saw the notification for your comment back in June.) I think you and your blog are really great! I enjoy when your posts show up in my reader and I’m glad we found each others blogs in 2013. Hope you have a happy new year! πŸ™‚

  2. I really like your random blog! =D My best friend goes to Rutgers and she’s in the graduate school of public administration. I’m sure it’s a big school but I think the world can be really small at times, ya know? I enjoyed reading your posts and thinks it’s so cool you were abroad in China! Neat!

    1. THANKS! πŸ˜€ Yeah, Rutgers is MASSIVE but it’s great because, like you said, it’s much easier to bump into other students/alumni and already have something in common with them!

      Glad you enjoyed what you read! FYI, THIS is why I love blogging: because of the unexpected people like you who stop by and enjoy the stories that I come here to share! I hope you continue to enjoy my future posts! πŸ˜€

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  5. So you decided to join the small clan of Uncle Spike followers, sometimes known as The Spikey’s…. That makes me a happy blogger now – I really appreciate you making that special mouse click.
    Hope you like my upcoming posts and if you get bored one day, maybe you’ll enjoy trawling through some of my older stuff too.
    If you have any likes, dislikes or suggestions about my blog, just let me know, either through β€˜comments’ or via email. Always welcome reader input πŸ™‚
    Have a great old day…

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  8. After I read your comment on my (Procrastination) blog this morning, I had to find out about you. I am also INFJ. So was Goethe. I dunno’ if you’ve met, but from what I read here, I think you might like him. I also love China — I lived and taught there for a year, 1982-1983. It was definitely one of the greatest years of my life.

    1. The Rocky Safari

      Hi Martha! There’s always something exciting about meeting fellow INFJs. I think the fact that you got to teach in China is awesome! I wonder if one day I’ll do the same. Last year, I volunteered to teach a class of Chinese students how to speak English through an online video chat on ooVoo. It was a great semester and I miss the kids a lot. The only way it could have been better is if I got to do it in person. Maybe one day! πŸ™‚ Thanks for following and looking forward to reading your posts too!

  9. Brian Andrade Baker

    Hey Rocky, thank you for taking an interest in my blog. I took the time to check out your work and I have to say it’s pretty awesome! You have a lot of personality in your writing and a lot of your pieces are very comical. I’m looking forward to more of your great stories.

    1. Hey there, Brian! No problem! Your writing is phenomenal – it was the great haiku you recently posted that first caught my eye! I can tell you are talented and I’m looking forward to reading more of your work in the future! Thanks for stopping in and I hope you get the chance to read more of my upcoming stories! πŸ™‚

  10. You’ve had an interesting life, tour guide, Lieutenant Governor, et al.
    What in the world is a MBTI personality type??and what is INFJ ??? I lost you there.
    Once a Chinese student told me my first name (Nuwan), is like a Chinese full name with just two syllables (Nu Wan).

    1. It’s kind of funny, I just learned what “el al” means in my writing class yesterday and now you just used it- Whoa! And MBTI is a personality type indicator that tells which of the 16 personality types you are. The real thing costs some money and needs to be administered by a professional but free versions can be found online even though they might not be 100% accurate. INFJ means introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging. The complete opposite type would be ESTP meaning extroverted, sensing, thinking, and perceiving. I’m actually going to make a post about this soon!

  11. Hi Rocky. I am thrilled you stopped by my blog. I am enjoying reading your posts. Thank you for the follow. I look forward to reading more of your writing, finding out about your interests and following you. Here’s to a great year ahead.

  12. Ren Ellis

    Thanks so much for commenting on my review of My Neighbor Totoro and for following my blog! I’m always happy to connect with fellow bloggers and I love that your blog covers so many topics. I also love international culture and foreign language and I think it’s very cool that you’re so interested in Chinese. I learned a little bit of Mandarin in the past but am currently studying Japanese (my best friend is Chinese American. Maybe I’ll try to learn Mandarin again when she stops making fun of my accent).

    1. Hi Ren! Thanks for visiting. I think Japanese is cool too! I’d love to learn it one day but I have a lot on my plate at the moment with Chinese alone. Don’t worry about your accent, I face the same challenge when I speak Chinese and I found it’s best to tune out any comments about your accent. πŸ™‚

    1. Hi Don! Nice to meet you. Haha I’m doing my best to attract gay INFJs from around the world and so far, quite a few have found my blog. I hope you find that you can relate to some of the posts I’ve published on here. Definitely take a look and yes, please keep in touch! πŸ™‚

      1. wow, you are definitely attractive =]
        it is somewhat miraculous to find out other INFJ gay as I frequently considered not being understood by others.
        idk, if we can organise some INFJ gatherings? or may you be my tour guide once I come to east cost for travel? I believe it would be great!
        btw, have you visited HK? if not, please come soon and I could take you for a walk here

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  14. Hello Rocky,
    Thanks for visiting and following my blog Fur Out The Closet. This means that you care about animals other than birds? <3
    China has such a bad reputation when it comes to the fur trade so i would be very interested in your input regarding this.
    Best wishes, Emy.

    1. I absolutely care about other animals besides birds! πŸ˜€ It’s just that birds are my favorite. And I didn’t know that about China, though I’m not particularly surprised since they produce so many products. I don’t approve of it so the best I can do is discourage people from feeding into it.

      Thanks for stopping by, Emy! πŸ™‚

  15. Hi! I just joined the blogging community and I found your amazing blog! I think I started following a couple weeks ago, but I didn’t really know where to comment (whoops!). I love reading your posts because we have so many things in common: INFJs, pre-med (also with this affinity for psychology), going to a vocational high school…it’s crazy! I can definitely relate to a lot of things you’ve been writing about, so I just wanted to say that think your blog is really brilliant.

    1. Hi Melissa! Thanks for following. It’s so nice to meet you! I’m glad you joined WordPress and I think your blog looks like it’ll be an interesting read as well. I’m just curious, what is your prospective major and profession as of right now? I always like to hear that from other INFJs! πŸ™‚

      1. I’m a biology major in a BS/MD program, so I do 3 years undergrad and then go straight to the affiliated medical school. I tried switching to psychology, but I wasn’t allowed to; turns out I can’t take a lot of the classes that I wanted to take in college. When I was applying to college I wanted to major in something not biology, just because I was learning it for the past four years in my vocational high school. I’m really interested in interdisciplinary things and my program isn’t big on that, so I’ve been considering transferring out honestly. It’s a difficult decision though just because, well, we all know how hard the regular route is for applying to medical school. I still have no idea what particular doctor I want to be (although probably not surgery), but I will admit that child psychiatry has crossed my mind!

  16. Daniel


    I stumbled across your blog earlier this morning and I couldn’t stop reading. I, too, am a gay male INFJ. I spent my 22 years of life feeling that I would never meet anyone that looks at the world through the same uniquely colored lenses as I do, so I felt it to be absolutely necessary that I reach out to you.

    If you are interested, I would absolutely LOVE for you to contact me.
    My email is [email protected].

    Have a wonderful Sunday,

  17. silverbeans

    Hello Rocky. My name is Alexis. I study at Syracuse University as a Geoscience major. I’m so so fucking happy I stumbled upon your blog. I have so many things I wish I could just express right now. Its crazy! I’m also an INFJ and I’m also gay. Reading your posts about being an INFJ have blown my mind away. ITS SO ACCURATE. EVERYTHING. The day I took the MBTI my life was complete. To read such an accurate description freaked me out and my roomate was like dude are you ok CAUSE I WAS HYOERVENTILATING. I also read many many of your posts, they’re literally SO good cause I can identify so easily. God damnit I hope I didnt freak you out! hahaha

    1. Hi Alex! Nice to meet you! πŸ˜€ I got your message via the connected Facebook fan page and was SO HAPPY that you found my blog! I get so excited when other people find my blog and can understand/relate to what I experienced with the MBTI. Isn’t it such a game-changer? I hope you enjoy my posts and I’d love to get to know more about you! ^.^

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  19. Ferdi Mori

    woahhh finally i find another infj gay boy. u know the world, we r so alienate. u really2 hav a so f*cking GREAT life, Im envious of ur good fortune(literally) . im trying to change from gay to straight, we know its hard T.T wish me luck. and u, keep writing! really love ur blog (sorry for my bad english :’) ) lol

    1. Hi Ferdi! Thank you for the kind words. Please do not be envious! I have problems just like anyone else does. Use that energy towards bettering your own situation. Also, I’d advise against trying to change from gay to straight since I’m fairly certain that that’s both impossible and psychologically damaging. In the meantime, let me know if you need help with anything! I’m here not only to write but also to listen. πŸ™‚

  20. Olivia S

    ROCKY! I randomly found your blog (I was googling Rutgers and TCNJ because I’m transferring lol).. Small world. Also, I’m an INFJ too! Hope you’re well! I might be seeing you next fall!!!

    1. Olivia!!! Hi hahaha! I’m cracking up – that’s so funny. You must have found one of my old posts from back when I was still in high school and trying to determine which college I wanted to attend.

      I hope you choose Rutgers. I’d love to see you around here! Obviously I can’t speak about TCNJ but I’d be more than happy to answer any questions you may have about life at Rutgers! πŸ™‚ Good luck deciding!

  21. Craig J Golbach

    I find you very intriguing. I can’t quite put my finger on it but I sincerely feel that I could sit and talk with you for hours and never know all that I would want to know about you. I’m curious that way. I like the way your mind works. To me, there is so much more to you behind that adorable handsome face. πŸ™‚ It’s like there’s the whole rest of that β€œiceberg” beneath the waters surface that would be fascinating to know.

  22. Evan Lindberg

    Hello! Fellow Infj here! Just wanted to say that your blog is wonderful, honest, simple (in the absolute best way), and very relatable. Thank you for being your brilliant, infj self (never change!).
    – Cheers

  23. Jennifer Luo

    Hiya Rocky,

    First things first: belated congratulations on snagging that seat for Personal Psychology!

    A while back, I stumbled across your blog searching up study tips for INFJs, and I’ve been following since. πŸ˜€ Bless your soul for indirectly introducing me to Rice Dream (I’m addicted to the vanilla flavored one).

    I’m a sophomore in high school with a career research paper called the I-Search, and I’ve chosen psychiatry as the profession I’ll be researching about. This paper requires three in-person interviews with psychiatrists, but I’m also looking to interview students who intend to pursue it, too. I wanted to ask if I could interview you over Skype (if you’d be willing to do so).

    Either way, thanks and I look forward to future blog posts. ^-^

  24. Hi Rocky, I stumbled upon your blog because of Rutgers. I did my undergrad there. I can see that it’s still as crazy and fun as I remember. haha

    I was able to read a couple of your posts and just wanted to say Congratulations on all of your hard work. It is great that you’re making the most out of your time there. I enjoyed spending time with my friends and participating in health education there at Rutgers.

    Good job on tackling your premed classes! I still remember those so vividly esp. the crazy 5 hour orgo lab. haha Good job on getting through calculus, I know that was a pain for a lot of people. I’m guessing you won’t be embarking on the wonderful world of Calculus 3, Multivariable Calculus? =p Don’t forget your math though or else General Physics will be very painful! You’ll have to remember to find the value of the plane’s position from time (t=0) to (t = 1 minute/hour) and then use the law of sines when calculating the altitude of an airplane taking off. Fun, right? General Physics + Orgo is like going to Disneyworld. haha

    However, the upper level science classes are more fun since they’re specialized. Cancer, pharmacology, systems physiology, neurobiology, human parasitology…those were fun since the people taking them were the ones interested and it wasn’t weeding people out like the general science classes. I had to take a lot of math though, going up to calculus 4 and linear algebra haha I don’t think you’d want to take those.

    Make sure you do your best in orgo (but I’m sure you will). When I was a grad student, one of my students was premed and she called me after her med school interview. She was really intelligent and hard working. However, she got a B in orgo, but aced everyting else (bio, general chem, physics, calc, statistics, etc.). During the interview, the doctor interrogated her on why she just got a B in the course. She got through it though because she was also a volunteer EMT and tutored biology so he just nodded his head and smiled. Many of my former students actually asked if I could repost my science notes on my site which I’m doing right now. I feel like I’m preparing for recitation again. haha

    In terms of pursuing psychiatry, that’s a very noble profession. During my clinical training, I would work together with the behavioral team (I was in pediatric oncology/hematology), and I got to see cases with the social worker and psychiatrist since they were the patients and families that I had to work with also. It’s really tough because there are so many emotions involved esp. dealing with sensitive and painful topics. You’re the person that they will come to when things seem to crumble. With healthcare changing, it’s becoming too fast paced and people can’t get the individual attention that they need. The focus is mainly on the physical ailments while the mental issues don’t get as much attention. So, I think it’s great that you’re pursuing it.

    Good luck on your studies and I look forward to reading more about your adventures!


    1. The Rocky Safari

      Hey Kevin! Sorry to randomly respond to this comment over 3 years later but I wanted to get back to you! My apologies, I actually recall reading your comment the day you wrote it but I don’t see a reply listed on here. I don’t know if it never sent it, if it got lost in the shuffle, or if I was just really busy studying and doing work for my classes at the time. Either way, it is so cool to hear from someone else who also went to Rutgers! A lot has changed over the last few years and I actually did not end up pursuing the whole medical school thing. While taking orgo and physics, I was like, “NOPE. Not doing this any longer.” I couldn’t see myself going to medical school for the amount of money and time it would require me to invest upfront. I decided to finish my college years studying psychology and business instead. Now I am making money doing totally different things (funny how often it happens that way) focusing more on business-type ventures. I’m more entrepreneurial-spirited so I think this was important for my own happiness. Thanks again for leaving your really nice comment! Again, I’m so sorry for the crazy delay in getting back to you! Hope you are doing well all these years later! lol

  25. ericooo

    Haha its so nice to know that you are into chinese and i know that Chinese people are awesome! Plus i love your chinese name its really cool!! And im also crazy for world languages and my dream is to go on a backpack world tour one day thats super cool haha!! Nice blog dude! πŸ˜€

  26. Michael P.

    I just stumbled on to your blog today, after googling “INFJ Study Habits.” As a (late-blooming) gay INFJ who has gone back to college, I found the tips to be extremely helpful. I am also very excited to explore more of your posts, and I have signed up for email update. Congratulations on your achievements, and thank you for sharing your journey and wisdom with us.

  27. Danika

    Hi Rocky!

    I fortunately stumbled upon your blog while I was having an internal conflict on how to start my personal blog. Your blog has given me some hope towards multi-topic blogging and reading your post about visiting your boyfriend in Spain got me in the feels. πŸ™‚ I’m glad things worked in your favor and I hope you have a wonderful time in Spain!

    PS: I thought it was cool you have a Chinese name cause I’m Chinese, but I have absolutely no proficiency in speaking Mandarin, haha!

    1. Hey Danika!

      Haha woww! If I may ask, do you remember specifically what led you to my blog? Pretty cool stuff! The internet works in interesting ways. I am so excited to hear that you’re trying to start a blog!! You can do it! If you have any questions, let me know and I will try to help. πŸ™‚ Oh and I can even try become your first follower! Best of luck and hope to hear from you again!


      1. Danika

        I remembered looking at another blog with a post talking about multi-topic blogging (I can’t remember whose, sorry), found your comment and here I am now πŸ™‚ The internet makes anything possible!

        I am very indecisive so I may take a loong time to really get into blogging but I am definitely going to stick around your blogs and throw in comments here and there πŸ˜€ Looking forward to your future adventures!

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  32. Hi Rocky

    What a great blog you have. Your little tale about eating 14 Chinese buffets reminded me of a tour I went at 15 with my parents to the west coast of the US and doing that self-same thing for every meal!

    Thanks for coming by to mine and leaving a hello.


    1. The Rocky Safari

      Thanks Sally/Amy! Imagine if we were a part of the same tour program? Sounds awfully similar hahaha. Memories like those are unforgettable. Thanks for stopping by! πŸ™‚ Hope to hear from you again.

    1. The Rocky Safari

      Thank you so much! ❀️ I always try to spread love and positivity anyway I can. I’m so grateful you dropped in. Definitely hope to hear from you again!!

  33. Rocky, thank you for visiting my blog, Retirement Made Simple, which I have been neglecting for a couple of years. Your comment has inspired me to reactivate the blog, which will happen within the next few days. BTW, I have not done much traveling in my life, but I recently decided to change that. I’ll never be a world traveler, like you. But I hope to see the USA the inexpensive way, traveling and even sleeping in a Toyota Prius. Wish me luck. Thanks, John Hayden

    1. The Rocky Safari

      Hey, John! Thanks for visiting! Haha that is such cool news to hear ? you know, you absolutely SHOULD bring it back! I find a lot of bloggers give up on their websites (sometimes as early as their first month!) and never fully run with it. You have an interesting topic and I totally think you should revive it! The frugal travel in the USA idea sounds like fun and I’d definitely like to hear about that! Best of luck to you! Keep in touch. Rocky

  34. Hey Rocky! I came across your blog because of your testing for the orange trees on the streets in Valencia XD Thanks for trying out for me
    And also I love your saying “MY BLOG IS REALLY RANDOM. AND WEIRD.
    But that’s why I love it.” I love your vibe:D

    1. Thank you, Suze! I didn’t realize you were an ESFP! πŸ˜€ MBTI personality type stuff is so interesting to think about. INFJs and ESFPs have been known to get along well – makes total sense! ^.^

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