Agoraphobia is defined as having an extreme or irrational fear of entering open or crowded places, fear of leaving one’s own home, or fear of being in places from which escape is difficult.
For the first time in my life, I woke up in a new country feeling terrified of the world beyond the four walls surrounding me.
After enduring 10+ hours of harassment and torment while riding on a bus from Croatia to Bosnia & Herzegovina, I was left feeling too terrified to go outside.
The incidents that took place during that chaotic bus ride had me worried about my safety even in the days that followed. I really believed something bad was going to happen to me the night before. Despite the fact that it was over, my feelings from it lingered.
Thankfully, I managed to exit the bus situation mostly unscathed aside from some emotional trauma and bad memories.
I am eternally grateful for my super patient Airbnb host who waited for me at the bus stop almost 2 hours into the night past the time I had scheduled my pick up at. It was all because the bus arrived behind schedule and without a working phone, I had absolutely no way of contacting my host to inform him that my bus was going to arrive late.
My host patiently waited there for me! After we found each other, he proceeded to drive me to my new temporary home.
The following morning in Sarajevo, I woke up feeling a deep sense of dread.
A new day… in a new city… and I had no desire to see any of it.
At that particular moment in time, I had seen nothing of Sarajevo and already felt like I’d seen enough.
I wanted nothing more than to stay put. Inside. Away from people. It was such a shame. It had taken me so long to get to Sarajevo and by the time I made it, I had already been through so much that I had no desire to walk around outside voluntarily.
I so desperately wanted to stay in the safety of my new apartment.
That’s the thing about fear. You may know it’s irrational.
That doesn’t mean overcoming it is easy.
It still affects you.
I skipped breakfast that morning and choose to take an extra-long shower instead.
By lunchtime, my hunger was growing and I knew I needed to go out to get food. No one was going to do it for me. I had to push myself outside of my comfort zone.
After all, that’s why I set out to travel in the first place.
I looked at myself in the mirror and told myself that I didn’t come all this way to hide at home. What happened on the bus was rough, but I reminded myself that sometimes altercations happen. They are nothing more than unfortunate isolated incidents.
If I mind my own business, I should be fine.
With my hand on the doorknob, I took a deep breath in and prepared to venture out into a new country.
I had no working mobile data. No safety net to fall back on. I had only the local map downloaded on my iPhone, a general idea of the direction I needed to head in, and the rest boiled down to trusting that I could backtrack my steps back home if anything went wrong.
I set out to try to locate a small roadside farmer’s market to buy fruits, vegetables, and other things to eat. I wanted groceries to keep at my new place in case I did end up wanting to stay home. Just in case.
Besides that, I would need to cook my own meals to budget properly for my extended stay in Sarajevo. Getting food is usually one of my first priorities anytime I travel anywhere, haha.
Step by step, I ventured out into the city all on my own.
Making sure not to confuse the actions of those individuals, I needed to rebuild trust in the people around me. Hate is not representative of an entire country.
The things those men said, they’re nothing more than the pure ignorance of a few individuals.
I could still fall in love with Bosnia and Herzegovina.
Little by little, I worked on rebuilding my spirit to where it was before those strangers came into my life. I fought against my urge to go home and made myself walk all around Sarajevo. My first few days weren’t the best, but things did brighten up with time.
Eventually, the fear and anxiety of leaving my home did go away.
After all, I went to the city to see their pigeons and I was NOT going to leave Sarajevo without seeing them!!! 😉
PS: Sorry for being MIA for a while. I’ve had a TON of things happen recently. Mostly all good things and a lot of huge projects to juggle. I’m making an effort to get back into the full swing of things.