“When was the last time you did something completely new and out of your element? How was it? Will you do it again?” -The Daily Post
I know this was a few months back but for my birthday, two of my friends practically forced me to go to my first college party at Rutgers. I am very anti-partying because I’m well aware of the fact that it isn’t my scene. I have no urge to surround myself with people acting all drunk and sloppy. I get irritated with the decisions I see people making and I hate when I spot people throwing themselves on others out of desperation. If other people enjoy that kind of stuff, great. All I’m saying is that I don’t feel any pleasure from being a part of it.
Getting into the party was difficult enough because of the whole “ratio” thing. Then, once I was inside, I immediately felt uncomfortable. I don’t drink so the illegal alcohol consumption that surrounded me did absolutely nothing for me. On top of that, as a gay guy, the women giving me more-than-obvious looks just made me feel weird. Of course, I didn’t have any luck with guys. Probably would have gotten punched if I even tried. Very hetero-normative frat party.
Will I go to one again willingly? No.
Is there a chance I may get pulled into another party over my next three years of college? Probably.
It’s just one of those things you kind of have to do thanks to the type of society we live in. I’d be perfectly happy chilling with a book or watching a scary movie.
I have always wondered if frat parties are really like the ones from American teen parties.
Frat parties can get pretty crazy! Not all of them are out of control… but many are (from what I’ve heard).
Appreciate your term “hetero-normative frat party.” Yes, most of them are, however, Rutgers is an extremely progressive school. I wouldn’t write off finding both a comfortable “party” setting and possibly, Mr. Right, right there on campus. In the meantime, enjoy your chosen chilling. 🙂
Regarding Rutgers, I would agree with you. It’s true – there are actually “LGBT Parties” on campus and perhaps it would be worth me checking one of them out! It would be awesome to meet someone. Hmm we’ll see! 🙂
frat parties are the same as any party with booze,lol
Mhm, you’re right! When I wrote this post, I made the decision to include that it was specifically a frat party because I thought it would help convey a stereotypical image of the type of people who surrounded me.
Why watch a scary movie when you can instead attend a “hetero-normative frat party?” Aren’t they both the same? LOL! Good question and response, buddy.
This past autumn, I went out with my boyfriend’s niece for her to acquire some “behind the wheel” driving experience. As a man who hates to drive, this was a proverbial nightmare. Never again! It took almost a pound of Mounds candy bars to calm me down afterwards! 🙂 Much love and naked hugs!
LOL I love the comparison! Yes… the two could certainly pass for the same thing (in my eyes, at least!)
I don’t like driving all that much either so I totally understand where you’re coming from. Hahaha the mounds reference made me laugh! 🙂
I never neglect a brother “Mounds-aholic!” 🙂 Much love and naked hugs! BTW: have you ever consumed a Mounds candy while nude? 😉
I really enjoyed your depiction of the party. All to often I see the same situation unfolding in most “Adult” social gatherings. I finished my undergrad 2 years ago and I can tell you the bar scene doesn’t change from the college party. Your right on your statement of “It’s just one of those things you kind of have to do thanks to the type of society we live in.”. There really is a weird social expectation and obligation to attend these events. Don’t peg me for an introverted shut in because I am far from it but as you stated the scent of desperation and yearning to be wanted leave a poor taste on the tongue. I really enjoy your post, hope to read more great ones in the future and from your archives!!!
I can tell from your comment that you genuinely understand where I’m coming from. You’re exactly right and I’m disappointed to hear that things don’t really change after college. Thanks, I’m glad you enjoyed this post and hope you like my other posts too! So excited to have you on board as a new follower. 🙂